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Hope & Healing After An Affair

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Healing after an affair is a process that will look different for every woman who walks down this beaten path. There are things we all share in common, but each of us has a different story to tell and different experiences to overcome. We all share pain, anger, grief, feelings of betrayal, and of course, more complicated insecurities than we had before our husbands cheated on us.

Regardless of where you are in your journey, I want you to know that I am here for you. I will pray for you and your family. I can also tell you that there is hope for healing after an affair because our God is the creator of life and if bringing a person back from the dead wasn’t too much for Him, He can revive your marriage.

I want to share some things with you, through a series of posts. It’s too much to write about in one sitting, but I want us to address some of the issues and concerns we face after our marriages have been branded by an affair.

Today, however, I want to share some verses with you. Verses to remind you, that we are not in this alone. We don’t have to have the answers; we don’t even have to do the work. God has the answers, God does the work, God is in control. These are the things I want you to say to yourself over and over again.


There is nothing that has happened, or will happen that God could not have put a stop to, or changed in some way. Here you are. So for some reason, God allowed you to be in this place right now. A place where you are searching for hope and healing after an affair. Think about that for a minute.

If any of these verses especially touch your heart, print them out, and put them in a place where you will see them often and be reminded of His power.

Proverbs 16-9

What do these verses mean to you today? Do you understand that God is sovereign? Do you understand that he could have stopped your husband from having an affair? Do you know that he could have stopped you from treating your husband in ways that you feel may have attributed to that affair? He is faithful. He allowed you to do what you did; he allowed your husband to do what he did.

Maybe you understand that God is sovereign, but you want to know Why did God allow my husband to cheat? – Let’s take a look at that now.


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Wednesday 13th of November 2019

This post and all of the replies are a true work of the Lord. Thank you for spreading God's words and His love!


Saturday 12th of October 2019

My husband had an affair in March that lasted until September. He filed for divorce in March. We are still married. He is back home but saying he needs to fix him before anything else. That he wants the divorce. I am so lost and hurt. I don't know what to do.


Sunday 15th of September 2019

I just found out that my husband has been talking to a girl at his work behind my back and had asked her to go out with him. She declined but after I found out he still lied to my face until I showed him the proof I had. Now he says he’s sorry and it won’t happen again, but this isn’t the first time he’s emotionally cheated. My heart is torn and I feel so inadequate. I pray multiple times every day for him to come back to God, as his entire lifestyle has changed since he walked out of the church. Please pray for God to transform his heart and give him Godly character. And please pray for my marriage.


Thursday 30th of May 2019

Just need all the prayers possible


Sunday 28th of October 2018

If God could stop the affair, why he did not do so, I treated my husband as pure and faithful as God. How could he do this to me and that too in the first year of a love marriage where he loved me for 7 years before we got married. What was missing, I could surely feel that things were going wrong as we used to fight a lot over small things, he would get angry on small little things, bit I never thought it was cause he was having an affair with his friend


Sunday 23rd of December 2018

It could be because your husband needs deliverance. What I have learned is that sometimes men will create fights to create room for their evil behavior stemmed from their evil desires. The Bible says men are drawn away due to their own lusts. Because I have discernment, I also realize that men that are born again and acting this way can be poorly managing their ignorance of the goodness of God. They don't know Him enough to realize how good He is. They have not take responsibility as a man and the head of the household / head of the wife to properly develop that relationship by sowing into it - with God and the wife. Instead, they look at the natural and respond from that. What they should be doing is looking at God (the Word), responding to Him and loving and sowing into his wife and celebrating with her. Because of his ignorance and laziness to get into the Word and get rid of all the fear and rejection, and really low self-esteem (hello! we are designed to be royalty, what king would lower himself to whoredoms?), he wallows in self-pity and sabotages his and his family's life. Really, that is the way of the world. Should not be the Church. Women have to know the Word and their rights. I for one am not willing to accept things I can change through the power of God. If He can justify Ruth, Abigail, Esther, and the women who were heirs in the real estate situation, then I believe God can justify me and any woman reading this and get us a better Boaz. There is NOTHING too hard for God and as a virtuous woman living in the last days - I am simply unwilling to accept mediocrity in all its form. Get a hold of yourselves ladies - in your patience, possess ye your souls. Ask God for His direction for YOUR life and believe Him when He speaks to you. Be Blessed!

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