Divorce sucks! It does. There are days when you feel like your life is falling apart, there are days when you wonder if anything you ever thought to be true was, and there are days when you don’t want to get out of bed.
Now imagine being under ten and dealing with divorce. It REALLY sucks! Seriously, people who say that children are better off in a broken home than a home where fighting occurs are crazy!
Not to mention that being around fighting and arguing is a good thing, but having everything you ever believed to be right about life, come shattering down, and losing one of the two people you thought loved you more than anyone in the world…can screw a kid up.
I’m sorry, maybe I should be more gentle with my words, but I’m angry. I’m mad that I have to watch my children suffer daily. It is a horrible feeling to see them crying, or unsure of what they are feeling inside, and losing interest in things they once enjoyed.
At this point, I feel like all I can do is pray for them and do everything I can to remind them that I will never leave them and that I love them. That’s the thing about divorce, though; it breaks that unconditional trust a child once had with their parents because they never thought either of their parents would leave.
They thought their parents would do everything in their power to protect them from harm, not bring them to pain daily.
Can you even imagine how the kids feel right now? I can only slightly imagine the pain because I am 29 years old, and I understand a lot more about sinfulness and selfishness, and God than they do, and I still hurt deeply.
Children understand better than anyone else what love is. Love is unconditional; it would lay down its life for another. That is LOVE, and when a parent walks away even if the child can’t verbalize it, they understand that they don’t feel loved.
While you may have a love in your heart that is a feeling for your children, REAL love, TRUE love is an action. It’s a willingness to do whatever it takes to put the other person first, even if you have to sacrifice EVERYTHING…
Can you get a divorce and still love your children? I don’t know. Can you leave someone you love? Can you scar their hearts for your happiness? You tell me.